First Week Back

Moms of Elementary age kiddos… you will want to follow this blog. Jennifer was Katie’s 2nd grade teacher. She is now a librarian at our beloved elementary school. She reviews books and shared great insight. Check it out…

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Monday

As the first day of school crept closer and closer, I began to have second thoughts.Can I really commit to book-talking every day for 180 days? How will I find time in my schedule? Will teachers welcome me into their classrooms?

Yes. Yes I can. One hundred and eighty book talks is a lot. But it’s not impossible.

Just like learning to ride a bike, after I started talking about my first book, it came right back to me. Monday was a good day to start with Real Friendsby Shannon Hale.

Real Friends

In fact, I didn’t even wait until the first day of school to talk about this one. It is that good. I told every 4th and 5th grader about the book while looking up bus numbers during registration.

I was never popular in school. I always felt like I was on the outside looking in. I…

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5 Minute Way to Start to My Day: 6 month anniversary (repost with notepad options)

The 5 minute way to start my day has become a daily habit for me. 6 months strong! And for several others as well. Tracey Simpson posted on Instagram yesterday about it and I have had several requests to purchase the notepads I created. I am not running this as a business but I would love to send out this resource to people. I personally love the notepads and the simplicity of the smaller space. (with a journal, I would not finish in 5 minutes!) SO… I am reposting the blog post from Moms at Hope and providing my email address. If you would like to order a 5×7 notepad with the sheet printed on each page, email me at fourfagans@yahoo.com and we can work out payment and delivery.

 

Tracey posted a photo of the spiral bound notebook. I can also order those but FYI the 5 minute format is only on the cover. It is a blank notebook inside.

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(written by Melissa Fagan)

I have been a Mom for a little over 20 years. Parenting and my journey as a Navy wife (and I guess as a woman, in general) has been marked with times of poor stress management and sometimes full-blown anxiety. I am currently in a good season and I am managing my stress well. God has used these uncomfortable and sometimes downright sick times to mold me. To desperately seek comfort from Him and admit my need to others.

I think I could write a 10 part series on all the ways He has molded me in this particular area. And the setting of the first chapter is taboo in some circles – the potty. But we are Moms and “potty talk” is part of the conversation when you have small kids, right? My most visible sign of unmanaged stress is an irritable bowel. And when I…

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13 Reasons Why; my reaction

 

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I started watching the new Netflix show “13 Reasons Why” after seeing an Instagram post by “Raising Boy and Girls” author Sissy Goff, a few weeks ago. I must admit I hadn’t heard of it and I was intrigued. The topics are intense and ring true of a lot of what high schoolers face. Bullying, Depression, Self-Harm, Date Rape, Drinking, Suicide; all topics that we have discussed and prayed about in our Moms of Teens group. In Sissy Goff’s blog post she points out some real pitfalls in thinking about suicide and blame and hopelessness. But she also reminds us that we know truth:

The light shines in the darkness but the darkness has not overcome it. John 1:5

Link to the Blog post

I wanted to discuss the show with my daughter and warn her about the dangers. However, when I brought up the topic, she told me that she had read the book a few years ago and had already watched the show! So much for me warning her. It did open up some space for discussion topics that she would have normally thought didn’t apply to her therefore weren’t necessary to endure the awkwardness of discussing them.

I finished watching the series yesterday. Just like my daughter, I couldn’t watch more than 2 episodes at a time because of the intensity and sadness. Very much like the main character that can only listen to so much of the recorded 13 tapes at a time. And having the feeling that you don’t want to hear anymore but you are also looking for answers.

After I finished, I realized I was particularly disturbed by the rape scene. My daughter said she had to fast forward through it. It was a lot to process and brought up some feelings from bad situations I was in as a teenager. And certainly not blaming the victim but at the same time seeing how alcohol and the desire to be poplar or cool can sometimes drive people to make bad choices and put themselves in potentially dangerous situations. I also noticed the temptation that people have to avoid warning friends or giving advice to peers that we see going down dangerous paths. Not to say that the avoidance means that you are to blame for their choices but I believe God calls us to be brave enough to speak up. To speak the truth in love.

I am still processing and haven’t sorted it all out. Especially the topic of suicide. However,  I found great hope in the list below that Sissy posted this week. It is written by a teenager to a friend: (and starts with my favorite verse)

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xo,

Melissa

Intention Dare for Lent

I was guest blogging over at Moms at Hope this week. Check it out…

(written by Melissa Fagan) I have been a Mom for a little over 20 years. Parenting and my journey as a Navy wife (and I guess as a woman, in general) has been marked with times of poor stress management and sometimes full-blown anxiety. I am currently in a good season and I am managing my […]

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Parenting Lessons from a pair of sister wives

As most of you know I co-lead a Moms of Teens group. I am also part of an online group called Good Morning Girls that reads the bible together 1 chapter at a time. God has been teaching me many things as I spend time with him reading his Word. This month we are reading 1 Samuel.

The beginning of the very first chapter captivated me and I have been meditating on it for a few weeks. So much application to my own life and to my role as a Mom. I can put myself into the place of each of these characters.

I knew that we had chapters in our current Moms of Teens (MOTS) book that spoke on friendships and on eating disorders … I could see some of that in this pair of “sister-wives”.

I wanted to come right out and share each insight but truly felt God nudging me to not “teach” it but to simply guide others in reading it for themselves. And as we did that together as a group, I learned even more.

Some big revelations like … how we can sometimes try to make our kid’s problems all about us and try to solve things for them instead of listening (WHAT?!)  like Elkanah did to Hannah.

And we made some interesting observations like … beer is mentioned in the bible!

So if you are reading this, give it a shot. See what you can learn from this passage:

 

1 Samuel 1:1-20 (NIV)

There was a certain man from Ramathaim, a Zuphite from the hill country of Ephraim, whose name was Elkanah son of Jeroham, the son of Elihu, the son of Tohu, the son of Zuph, an Ephraimite. He had two wives; one was called Hannah and the other Peninnah. Peninnah had children, but Hannah had none. Year after year this man went up from his town to worship and sacrifice to the Lord Almighty at Shiloh, where Hophni and Phinehas, the two sons of Eli, were priests of the Lord. Whenever the day came for Elkanah to sacrifice, he would give portions of the meat to his wife Peninnah and to all her sons and daughters. But to Hannah he gave a double portion because he loved her, and the Lord had closed her womb. Because the Lord had closed Hannah’s womb, her rival kept provoking her in order to irritate her. This went on year after year. Whenever Hannah went up to the house of the Lord, her rival provoked her till she wept and would not eat.

Her husband Elkanah would say to her, “Hannah, why are you weeping? Why don’t you eat? Why are you downhearted? Don’t I mean more to you than ten sons?”

 Once when they had finished eating and drinking in Shiloh, Hannah stood up. Now Eli the priest was sitting on his chair by the doorpost of the Lord’s house. 10 In her deep anguish Hannah prayed to the Lord, weeping bitterly. 11 And she made a vow, saying, “Lord Almighty, if you will only look on your servant’s misery and remember me, and not forget your servant but give her a son, then I will give him to the Lord for all the days of his life, and no razor will ever be used on his head.”

 12 As she kept on praying to the Lord, Eli observed her mouth. 13 Hannah was praying in her heart, and her lips were moving but her voice was not heard. Eli thought she was drunk 14 and said to her, “How long are you going to stay drunk? Put away your wine.” 15 “Not so, my lord,” Hannah replied, “I am a woman who is deeply troubled. I have not been drinking wine or beer; I was pouring out my soul to the Lord. 16 Do not take your servant for a wicked woman; I have been praying here out of my great anguish and grief.” 17 Eli answered, “Go in peace, and may the God of Israel grant you what you have asked of him.”

 18 She said, “May your servant find favor in your eyes.” Then she went her way and ate something, and her face was no longer downcast.

19 Early the next morning they arose and worshiped before the Lord and then went back to their home at Ramah. Elkanah made love to his wife Hannah, and the Lord remembered her. 20 So in the course of time Hannah became pregnant and gave birth to a son. She named him Samuel, saying, “Because I asked the Lord for him.”

 

Reflection Questions:

What can we learn from Hannah and Peninnah’s relationship? Have you or your teens ever felt like Hannah? Peninnah?

How did Hannah initially respond to Peninnah’s provoking (v.7)?

How did Hannah’s husband react to her (v.8)? Do you ever find yourself taking it personally when your teen is downhearted, weeping or not eating?

What did Hannah do in her deep anguish  (vs. 10-17)?

And how did it change her (v.18) ?

How can this help you in parenting your teenager?


 

These are my attempts at writing scripture prayers from the story. And of course, I added some photos to them too. (I didn’t really have photos of people provoking one another but I could recollect a few of my kids poking and provoking each other.)

Prayers for your teens based on 1 Samuel 1:1-20

Lord, I pray that ___________ would be a good friend and never provoke or intentionally irritate others. And if ___________ is provoked, that he/she would come to you in prayer.

 Just as Hannah did, I pray that ____________ would share his/her downhearted feelings and his/her heart’s desires with you. Remind ____________ that you remember him/her.

 

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5 Minute Way to Start to My Day

I have never written down resolutions. I often have positive intentions for change floating around my brain but I don’t generally want to commit to them because…

pressure!

And who needs more pressure !! It also seemed to have a year long commitment attached to it and that just seems too ….  long.

Some of those floating ideas are really expectations I imagine that others have of me.  (and if I told my husband what I imagined he expected, he would calmly and wisely reply “I reject that.” Because he knows much of it is not based in reality. This may sound dismissive but it has saved us from many arguments that are not based on anything true.

I realize that writing things down (or typing them out) helps me to clarify what is really going on. If I had to list some general resolutions (less commitment) I would say I want to be more intentional, more present, more grateful and leave space in my calendar to follow where God leads daily in my relationships. And leaving space on my calendar is so much better than the packed calendar I have strived for in the past. I have always loved a calendar. I have had weekly calendars and monthly sheets I created myself and hung by my computer. Now I have an app. But honestly, it only has appointments.

Many, many years ago (like over 20) my co-worker, Abdul, and I took a Franklin Covey management training class in San Francisco. I loved all the tools and books they handed out. It was full of organizational hope. A new beginning in an awesome planner (that we got for free! … well free to me, I’m sure our company paid for it). But honestly what I remember from this class is that Abdul didn’t go to lunch with me. It was Ramadan and he fasted from dawn until sundown!  For . A.  Month!  This was a completely new idea to me. I was fascinated and impressed with his dedication. Now that’s a resolution with commitment!!

Fasting isn’t one of the thoughts floating around in my brain (although I do have some fitness wishes) but routine is floating. And thinking back to my planner, I think I could benefit from writing down some goals. And if they were flexible daily goals … it might just work.  Sooo…. here is where I am going with this …..

Today, I listened to a Facebook live video by Nicole Unice. She is the author of the book I read with my Moms group in the fall and I had the privilege of meeting her in December. She was talking about resolutions and an idea she got from “Tools of Titans: The Tactics, Routines, and Habits of Billionaires, Icons, and World-Class Performers” by Timothy Ferriss & Arnold Schwarzenegger. It immediately resonated with me. I took notes and created a worksheet. This is going to be my resolution … to complete this worksheet each  morning. (Not in my first 5 minutes… I tried something like that last year … but my first 5 are pretty sleepy. I need eye drops, coffee, my people out the door and then my readers on).

Here is the idea:

3 for 3  in 5 minutes    ——->     3 categories with 3 bullets each

  1. Today I am grateful for:

  2. 3 things I want to accomplish today:

  3. Who I am praying for today:

Yes…. this is all me!! gratitude, purpose and prayer!!!

Woo Hoo! I am so excited to start this tomorrow! Want to join me? I’d love to share this and be accountable!  email me if you want me to send you the word doc.

 

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Update: This idea has quite a few followers. I have created a Facebook closed group for encouragement and accountability. We’d love to have you if you are interested. You can search for “5 Minute Way to Start My Day” and request to be added.

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God is with us in … our inter-generational relationships and our decorations🎄

God is with us in our … inter-generational friendships and our decorations 🎄

The theme for the Hope Women’s Ministry Christmas dinner and the devotional series that followed was subtitled:

Finding Peace During this Christmas Season.

I prayed about this topic and each of these words. As I contemplated Christmas as a “season”, the vision that came to my mind was an Advent wreath of my youth; 4 candles orderly marking the weeks of expectant waiting and preparation for the celebration of the Nativity (birth) of Jesus. {yes, I looked that up}
Which in turn brought up thoughts of decorating my house for the season. I do not have the decorating gift but I like to fill the house with decorations during December. I have several nativities and wreaths that are reminders of Jesus’ presence in this season. Oh and a gigantic pre-lit, fake tree. I sit and gaze at it in the dark with only the lights of the tree in the room. That quiet time at night is peaceful and filled with God’s presence as I gaze at ornaments representing so many memories. (side note: the tree is covered in souvenir ornaments from our travels, the kids’ handmade items, gifts from friends and ornament exchanges, hobbies and sports teams representations, mini nutcrackers collected by our son, etc. It is our knick-knack display to keep the house clutter free the other 11 months ;-))

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As I continue to think on this as a “season” of waiting to celebrate Jesus’ birth, my thoughts turn to the expectant Mary. I used to sing Silent Night as a lullaby to my babies and felt a kinship with Mary. I sang it year round along with another song, Baby Beluga (that ended nicely with “Good-nightlittle whale, good-night”). In retrospect, I may have really been inspired to sing Silent Night because it has the line “sleep in heavenly peace” and isn’t that what every Momma is hoping for in that nighttime rocker!
I opened my bible app and searched for the story of Mary’s pregnancy. I was looking for what brought her peace in this “season”. Having an Angel say, “do not be afraid” and tell you that you have favor with God (Luke 1:30) should be comforting.

BUT the virgin birth idea would have freaked me out!!

The Angel assured her that the Holy Spirit would come upon her and that nothing was impossible with God. And by her faith and obedience she seemed to be peaceful to me. How awesome is it that we also have the Holy Spirit in us as believers and we can find peace in the assurance that all things are possible with God!

I continued to read on in Luke 1. I was reminded of the relationship between elderly Elizabeth (pregnant with John) and her teenage cousin, Mary (pregnant with Jesus). They were not close in age but they were definitely connected in circumstance. I can imagine they shared a lot, especially because in verse 56 it says:
“Mary stayed with Elizabeth for about three months and then returned home.”

(Sidenote: That was way over the Ben Franklin limit we often follow  … “Fish and visitors stink after 3 days.” hehe)

I have enjoyed inter-generational relationships and found peace there (but I never moved in).

When I was in my 30’s, I was part of a formal “Titus 2” group. I was a younger woman…
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3 Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. 4 Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God
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I now find myself loving the older woman role at this stage of my life while still enjoying my relationships with the older-than-me women too. I find peace in these Godly relationships. And the wisdom shared with me by the mentors in my life has been a way that God has shown himself to be present.

I have one particular example from the Christmas season that has stuck with me. My older friend, Cindy, hosted a potluck lunch for our bible study group at the end of a fall semester. I knew Cindy well as she was one of my original Titus 2 women years ago. But this was the first time I was back in her charming house since I had moved away for 7 years. Her house was decorated for Christmas. Cindy loves Christmas. She had shared many of her families’ traditions with us over the years. Our family collected nutcrackers because of her but I never quite mastered gingerbread houses like the stories of their elaborate family collaborations. (We have done a few of the premade ones from Walmart).

(Added interest: I just saw this on Instagram this week… Cindy now has grandchildren to continue the traditions with … another encouragement to me as my teens are “over” some of our traditions) img_5731

During the fellowship lunch, Cindy told us that she would like each of us to look around at her decorations and pick one to take home with us!! (with the exception of homemade items by her kids or grandkids).

She seriously was going to let us take whatever we wanted! In fact, she insisted!!

I was overwhelmed with her generous offer and impacted by her “teaching” that material things are not our treasures.

I selected a glass church ornament from the small tree in her sunroom. It is one of my favorite “memories” and is still hanging from our pre-lit, fake, non-decorator, knick-knack tree and I hope that I would give it to you, if you asked.

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God is with us in… (guest blogging at Hope Women’s Ministry: Can’t See the Forest for the Trees)

Hope Women’s Ministry is doing an advent blog: I was humbled to write some thoughts on the topic of  :

Can’t See the Forest for the Trees ~ Finding Peace During the Christmas Season.

God is with us in …

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God is with us in the … shopping!

Let me just say it… I don’t like shopping! This may sound Un-American or you may be thinking I am putting on the appearance that I am completely free from the love of “stuff”.  But believe me our house is full of stuff, and yes, we do continue to acquire more. However, the process of going in and out of stores, of making decisions and then parting with my money is not fun for me.

But shopping IS part of our life. We need food, clothing and shelter, right?! In fact, one of my stay-at-home Mom friends once told me that the main part of her job description was: Procurement Specialist. Costco and Target have helped me overcome some of my shopping stress. Food, clothing and shelter (well, furniture and the decorative parts of the shelter) are all under one roof, for a fair price and can be easily returned. I can now fulfill the family role of procurement.

Until Christmas comes around… Somehow I get overwhelmed again trying to think of perfect, thoughtful gifts, put together beautifully, wrapped and mailed to family all over the country. I impose all kinds of expectations on myself. And I fall deep into the materialistic trap of what the entire month of December has turned into (and sometimes sooner… I felt a panic seeing Christmas decorations filling the Target seasonal section, the day after Halloween).
I need to take a step back and keep Jesus in this season with me. Cause He is the Reason for the Season, right?
In Romans 13:5 we are reminded:
Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have…
Yes… I want to do this, I want to have this perspective, but it is hard!
The second part of the verse is so helpful to me…
because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”

Yes!! God is with us! We are not alone. He will never leave us! I can admit my struggles and issues and He will not leave me. And a couple years ago, He reminded me that He will even go shopping with me!

It was the week after the Hope Women’s Christmas dinner. Kim Hill had been the featured guest and I bought her CD: “Real Christmas” and put it in my only remaining CD player, the one in my car.
Kim’s voice took me back to my childhood and a memory of my Mom and I listening to Anne Murray on the Mike Douglas show! (that was long before Ipods or CD’s. I think it was even before my first 8 track tape player!). And Kim sang songs of praise right in my car. Songs like: Angels We Have Heard On High, O Come All Ye Faithful, O Holy Night, What Child is This?, God Rest Ye Merry Gentlemen, Silent Night, O Come, O Come Emmanuel.
Oh yes! Come Emmanuel (which is translated “God with us”). Hop in the minivan with me while I navigate parking lots and errands and shopping! And my new friend, Kim and I will sing to you.

The need to purchase gifts hasn’t disappeared. And I don’t buy everything on Costco.com and have it delivered. But I have continued the tradition of shopping with Jesus and singing in the car. It brings me peace, perspective and a renewed attitude.

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Hope only blogged words but if you follow me, you know I am a photo blogger!  So here is a pic of me when I met Kim Hill and she signed my CD! And a peek at my dashboard in shopping center parking lot …. this year… and I no longer have a minivan or that CD.

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Shopping

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But I still have God and I can get back to a good perspective.

Plus Pandora!!

I took it one step further than shopping … used it in packing yesterday! One of my anxiety triggers. I carried my phone around with me as I packed everything 😉 I need for 3 car trips, Christmas at the Grandparents’ house, and a ski trip with meals in the condo.

 

 

 

Just say “No” and keep your peace

We all have boundaries and can bang against them.

How reassuring is it that God has designed them for us?

And it is all good!

And in pleasant places!

This has me jumping for joy in the freedom! How about you? How about your teens?

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And because it makes me smile {and cringe},

And because we can look like a stressed out fool when we don’t embrace freedom with boundaries, I am posting this treat  😉     —————->

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Last week we discussed God’s Calling for each of us. When I talk about calling, I always continue with a discussionon limits. It is an amazing fruit of staying in step with God. It makes saying ‘No’ so much easier. And having boundaries gives us space to rest which in turn allows us to have peace and joy. I am so much more fulfilled and confident in the things I say “yes” to. Even if it stretches me a little. I can hardly express how much this has impacted me and allowed me to follow God’s lead and have an inner peace.

 

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As I reflected on this graphic and tried to come  up with a good example to share, I keep remembering the first big “No” that I had peace with after defining my calling. I had been a PTA board member in various positions for 5 years in TN public schools. We moved to VA and it seemed strange to not have a PTA job. I was a newbie and unfamiliar with the way things were done in VA. I attended meetings as a member, offered some opinions and volunteered to set-up social media accounts. At the end of the school year, the Principal approached me and asked me to run for President! President!! I hadn’t had that printed on a magnetic name tag yet! I must admit my ego was stroked and I felt included and valuable … to the school…but was that I really where I wanted to find my value? I told the Principal that I would consider it and let him know. I prayed about it and measured it up against my calling. It did not fit within my boundaries. I determined that it was not where God wanted me to place my time and it was clear that it was a “No”. When it came time for the next meeting, I told the board that “I have prayed about it and it was not where God was leading me at this time.” Let me just say, God gave me courage to say that. I did not where these people stood with God. They may have rolled their eyes but I didn’t see it.   I still served in a board position that year but a less time-consuming one that was in line with my gifts. I was voted volunteer of the year and I could accept that recognition with humility and confidence that I had worked with God in the forefront. Seeking His guidance changed my heart. We moved again after that school year, and I felt lead to say no to PTA boards in this new season. And it has made room for some great “Yes’s”.

 

As I began to read the next chapter in Nicole Unice’s “Brave Enough”, I should not have been surprised that it was called: Brave-Enough Women Know Their Limits. Here are some notes from Nicole’s teaching:

God has given us boundaries and calls them good.

The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places. Psalm 16:6

God has given us two great gifts: capacity and fragility.

We have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us.
2 Corinthians 4:7

Sabbath-rest allows for communion with our heavenly Father.

There remains, then, a Sabbath-rest for the people of God; for anyone who enters God’s rest also rests from their works, just as God did from his. Let us, therefore, make every effort to enter that rest.
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To become strong, first we must be still.

This is what the Sovereign Lord, the Holy One of Israel, says: “In repentance and rest is your salvation, in quietness and trust is your strength, but you would have none of it.”
Isaiah 30:15

We answered these questions as a group based on these boundaries:

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  1.  Which boundary type sticks out to you as places where you tend to live outside your limits?

  2. What frustrates you about your own limits? What is God teaching you in that frustration?

 

 

You have Charisma and a Calling

You have charisma and a calling… great news, isn’t it?

In Hope Moms of Teens we are reading Brave Enough by Nicole Unice. This week the chapter focused on our Calling. A topic that I am passionate about.

It has been life changing for me to define my calling. I can find purpose and to hopefully glorify God in my activities. It is also invaluable in helping me set limits and find peace.

Being brave enough to say yes to things that are a little out of my comfort zone but in line with my calling and to say no to the other commitments. This is the a topic for next week and they really do go together.

Calling

to fill in this sentence:

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We started with this one:

“Who am I becoming?”

We watched Nicole Unice’s video on “calling”.  Here are the highlights:

We are all gifted, but we are not the same.

Just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us.
 Romans 12:4-6

Charisma (translated: gifts) are the result of grace.

There are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit distributes them. 1 Corinthians 12:4

Calling is bigger than category.
 Calling is the intersection in your life of God’s glory and your design.

By the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace to me was not without effect. 1 Corinthians 15:10


We were brave enough to answer some of these questions in our group today. Can you be brave enough to write down your answers?

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I also challenged us to pay attention to each other and be willing to encourage each other in our callings. To notice when someone lights up!

These more specific questions were especially helpful:image

Personally, I went through this process 6 years ago. I participated in a study called Woman on a Mission which has now been released as a video study called Embracing Purpose. It was intensive and entailed a lot of soul searching.

If I were to translate it into answers to the brave enough questions, it would look like this:

What do I love doing?  (what gives me energy?) talking, women’s groups, hearing people’s hearts, taking photos, holding babies

What experiences have I had of God calling me into my gifts? prayer groups, urban involvement, sharing my heart on social media and blogging

What do other confirm they see in you? shepherd, encourager, sensitivity to the Spirit

Am I in a season where I have been presented opportunities to live out my gifts? free time, leading MOTS, mentoring Moms, praying for others, encouraging healthy marriage, writing ?

I ended embracing my purpose by having a mission statement and a visual mission board. Here is mine:

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My mission is defined as:  to guide and encourage women while using my passions and being open to God’s leading.

What is yours?