The Friday Follow-up from December 4, 2015 is at the bottom of this post!
Monday November 30, 2015
What a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday with my family of four and with the unique emotions of having my college freshman home for the first time since he moved to DC. It started with giddy excitement of me on Tuesday night as his plane took off and I waited to go to the airport by eating biscoff cookies (you know the ones you get on airlines, if you are lucky). Wednesday brought some pride that he was grown up and going to my Internist by himself instead of a Pediatrician, and some relief that she gave him some meds and an I-knew-you-were-sick Mama attitude (but lips were quiet…progress!!) The day also brought contentment as he spent time with his sister and his friends. I shopped and cooked and was filled with joy to get flowers from my own Mum in celebration of our upcoming 24th Wedding Anniversary. A good reminder that as a Mother of an adult… we need to refrain from unsolicited advice and unnecessary correction but not ignore them. Expressing love to our children is essential … whether they are 18 or 48.
What an amazing example our heavenly Father is of this… and how important it is to solicit His advice.
As I was decorating the tree this morning by myself, I hung this ornament that was a gift at a Women’s Christmas dinner in Texas in 2005. (I love that my tree is full of memories…but it takes a long time to decorate as I reminisce and take a photo and start a blog…you get the picture…)
I got excited about the Christmas dinner and concert this Thursday night. (Tickets to the concert are still available)
I was also reminded of the scripture and the preaching at Hope yesterday on our Mighty God!
What a gift …
- Wonderful Counselor
- Mighty God
- Everlasting Father
- Prince of Peace
I have to pause and take this in!
A gift to us and to our teens! (who have been asked many times this week: What gifts do you want for Christmas? And often we don’t really know what to ask for)
I have been thinking about God as our Counselor. The most amazing Counselor we could ever ask for!
We are also blessed that God has gifted some people with the ability and desire to counsel others. And we are truly fortunate to have a Christian Counselor on staff at Hope. AND Kristy Brand is going to join us this week at Moms of Teens!!!!
Well, I got a little off track with my Thanksgiving moments and emotions… cause blogging is often stream of consciousness for me … sorry if this is annoying. So I will close with one of my favorite moments:
I set up my tripod and the camera on a timer for the 2nd annual family Christmas card photo shoot before Thanksgiving dinner. All four Fagans cooperated but the shenanigans that used to make me either
her threaten or bribe like a crazy woman, now make me laugh and find joy in the moment, (okay, I will admit it is easier because I know that they will eventually cooperate). Here is a photo of Jack trying to make my decorative hood functional!
December 4, 2015
What an awesome, authentic day we had in our group. Counselor Kristy Brand spoke on “Being intentional with your teenager”. She was so great at opening discussion and answering questions. And each one of us shared from our hearts. Community is so important. And so is being authentic and honest. With one another, with a professional when necessary (a once a year check-up is “a thing”) and always with our Wonderful Counselor.
Below is the handout from class:
Being Intentional With Your Teenager
Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
- Low Self Esteem
- Eating Disorders
- Attention Deficit Disorder/Hyperactivity
- Sexual promiscuity
- Sexual identity
Roots of Issues
- Family Dynamics
- Hormonal Changes
- Peer Pressure
- Mental Health Diagnosis
Remember and Believe in God’s promises
Be aware of you own behaviors, issues, struggles
Communicate with your teen
Expect the Best
Don’t Sweat the Small
Don’t Ignore Major Issues or Changes
Be involved but have healthy boundaries
Seek professional help: Therapy, Medical Attention, Inpatient Assistance, Support System