Speaking my birthday language

…. cause I know you want to speak my language on my birthday, right??!

The past few weeks I have been reading the 5 Love Languages of Teenagers by Gary Chapman. It has me thinking about the ways we give and receive love. The book defines the languages as: Physical Touch, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time and Words of Affirmation. They all sound good to me 😉  But some really fill my love tank up more than others.

Words of Affirmation comes first for me, then Acts of Service and Quality Time. I like physical touch and gifts but they don’t resonate with my heart to the same level.

So as I reflect on some of the extra special moments of this 49th birthday, I realize it is in sync with my language. And some of the littlest things mean the most.

  1. My husband waiting patiently with the car running in the driveway while I painted my nails blue for the Grizzlies basketball game. Cause you know, they can dry while we drive downtown but I need to paint in a still car with my belt already fastened! My Long-suffering husband usually likes to be at the game in his seat before tipoff. For me today, he said the 4th quarter would even be fine.
  2. Katie making me strawberry cupcakes yesterday so they would be ready for breakfast time today. I love cake and coffee.
  3. It was MLK day and Sean and Katie were home to spend the day with me. And that we could sleep in and go to the Grizzlies game. (and bonus…they won)
  4. Katie hugging me tighter than usual (physical touch isn’t her thing) and making me laugh when I didn’t let go and she said “don’t over do it” with a smile in her voice.
  5. A text from my Dad telling me it was 10 degrees in Pittsburgh today just like it was the day I was born.
  6. Calls, texts and facebook posts from near and far, new and old, friends and family. (Oh how I love words…any kind really) … And I got a video singing text from the Angel Street choir girls. That was a first!
  7. Sean and Katie agreeing to any photos I wanted… even of my hot pretzel! I love those things! We used to get them at snack time in elementary school for 25cents. And in college from the “trucks”.   And driving down to the river before dinner so I could take some pics. Oh and me taking pics of the food and drinks at Flight restaurant. Everything comes in sample sizes of 3. How cute is that? Even a “flight” of sprite! Oh and the delicious “flight” of 3 desserts with candles in it!!
  8. A memory my Mom shared about her beloved Aunt De, (who was a nun and teacher and took care of babies) telling her that she was passing on the caring of babies to my Mom when my Mom first became a Grandmother. I am not a grandmother and don’t intend to be one anytime soon but I have recently embraced this stage in womanhood where I feel called to love on young Moms and their babies.
  9. I wasn’t sad that Jack wasn’t here. I missed him but I am at peace that he is where he is thriving. Sean conferenced him in to the singing this morning.
  10. The diverse city of Memphis where I feel at home now and seeing the sun setting over the Mississippi was a beautiful hug from God.
  11. Medicine for the things that ail me. Currently on Antibiotics for Lyme disease and steroids for a possible neck issue that is causing arm tingling. But I’m really not worried and just grateful for this day the Lord has blessed me with.  (And by the way… it is thanks to the steroids that I am still wide awake at almost midnight.)

 

I didn’t set out to do a top 10 (good thing cause I just added #11 when I went to take my bedtime drugs)  but that seems like a good place to stop as it is about to be the day after my birthday!

I said I loved words. And recording them. And oh yea…I need a photo or a collage to feel complete!

Goodnight, 49th birthday!

 

Now it’s the day after my birthday and I just had to post 2 of the cards I received. One made me laugh hard and I thought it was ironic that I was just talking about my Great Aunt the nun.

The second one was from my son and as his “gift” to me, he filled out the love languages quiz! Perfect!! And from the look of the cleaning and cooking Mom in the card, I’m guessing Acts of Service is going to rank highly.

 

A Pattern that brought peace

This is a prayer pattern that I learned on the Hope Women’s Ministry Leaders’ Retreat. Angie and I have both handed it out to the Moms of Teens group. I created scripture photos from the retreat to help me memorize it.

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Father, you are GOOD – “Taste and see that the Lord is good” Psalm 34:8

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I need HELP – “Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7

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THEY need help – “Call to me and I will answer you.” Jeremiah 33:3

 

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Thank YOU – “In everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”  1 Thessalonians 5:18

I handed it out last week. I wasn’t anticipating how desperately I would need it over the next few days. It looks like I may have Lyme disease from my mountain hike over the break, but it is treatable at this early stage. The Doctor also diagnosed me with bicep tendonitis and told me not to lift weights or do pushups until I get some PT. (which puts a damper on my New Year’s Resolution. Oh darn…no pushups.)

 The next morning I was faced with some hard stuff from one of my teens. To include serious consequences, confessions, and an ongoing problem that involves others and has me on my knees. 

This past weekend, our Pastor preached on finding peace. He told us that God the Father craves for us to have His peace in our everyday chaotic life (or something close to that). 

“I leave you peace. It is my own peace I give you. I give you peace in a different way than the world does. So don’t be troubled. Don’t be afraid.” John 14:27 (ERV)

I realized that, although, my week had included some hard stuff out of my control, I wasn’t stressed. Sad, concerned, prayerful, … Yes.   BUT at PEACE. His Peace!  Amen.

Now for a few Moms of Teens Updates from the Facebook Group:

 

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Great job, Angie!!

 

Funny:

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This made me smile! And it reminded me of my sister, Amy’s story of her boys shocked reaction when they read the title of our book, The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers…. “Mom!!! No!”

Amy is a single Mom. They imagined the subtitle “The secret to being a successful “Cougar” and even scoring a date with your teens’ classmates”
😂😂
oh communication and one track minds of teens and the word love!😂

Reminder:

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This starts Wed. morning at 9:30:

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Update ….

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If you haven’t heard… Terrian is going to Hollywood!

 

 

 

 

 

Moms of Teens Winter/Spring Kickoff

We will begin meeting again THIS Wednesday (as in less than 2 days from now!!!)   11:45-12:45 in room 302. This first week will be an introduction, a review of the calendar, and a time of getting to know any new people. Feel free to invite someone new. And if you are new and getting this post, you will feel right at home. We are not cliquey! But we are tight if that makes sense. If you ever feel overlooked or like you need more background on a topic, just ask. And if you have come in the past but we haven’t seen you in a while, no worries, no guilt, just come, you are welcome back at anytime.

Hope Women’s Ministry has so much to offer.  Angie and I have gotten some questions and feedback from some of you as to what is what. It can be confusing. I will try to make it understandable.

First of all, if you are just getting started and are only up for our 1 hour meeting….great!

Moms at Hope {am}

Moms of Teens is under the umbrella of Moms at Hope {am}. Moms at Hope has groups for Moms with kids of all ages. ex. First Time Moms (those are the ones with the cutie patootie babies that I love to get my hands on) 2014 Moms, 2013 Moms etc. Moms of Elementary. All of these groups meet on Wed. mornings from 9:30-11:30 because that is when childcare is provided. There semester is also shorter than ours because of childcare costs.

At the beginning of the semester, Moms at Hope {am} has a kickoff event. We are invited to that event. It is THIS week.  The topic is: Embracing Weakness. “The end of your strength, is the beginning of His.”
I am looking forward to the worship, food, teaching and a panel of moms from different stages of parenting sharing how they are experiencing His strength. Our very own Angie Coleman will be part of the panel!  I would love it if you would make an effort to come and support her. (and say a prayer for her as this is out of her comfort zone).

If you have been to the kickoff before, it was in the chapel so please note: NEW location: we will be meeting upstairs in the Hope 4 Kids bldg. Come in entrance 3 and there will be moms to direct you.

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Moms at Hope {pm}

The {PM} group meets in conjunction with Wednesdays at Hope.
Optional Dinner at 5pm, Class/Group Meeting at 6:30pm
Room 230 at Hope. It is for Moms with all different age kids including teens.   This year Wednesdays at Hope will be Jan 13-Feb 17. The topic is “It’s Complicated” and it will be facilitated by 2 counselors.

Bible Study

Bible Study is under the Women’s Ministry umbrella but separate from Moms groups. All women are invited to join a bible study, including Moms! In fact, one of the reasons we meet at 11:45 is so Moms will have the option to attend a bible study in addition to Moms of Teens. Bible Studies are offered on Wed mornings at 9:30 and Monday nights at 6:30. There are several studies offered every semester.

The Hope website has the details and sign-up info (and cool videos this time) :

Hope Bible Studies

The Wed morning study will begin NEXT week.

Okie dokie…I hope that helps and you can do as much or as little of it as you feel called to.

MOMS OF TEENS Reminders:

You will need to order your book. They are not a stock book at our Lifeway stores but are available for discount prices on Amazon and other online retailers. Easy links are available on the 5 Love languages website: (yep, they have their own website)

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5 Love Languages website

 

Here is our calendar:

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Lastly, (and I am running out of time to myself…so this is quick), I last wrote to you about my fears with our first family ski trip. Well, this time, I didn’t ski ….BUT it wasn’t out of fear!!! It was a choice. The slopes were only open our very last day AND it was really cold AND my ski pants were really tight!! So my sister in law and I decided to “Let it go” and Let the teens go (after a few photos). It was a Happy New Year. Hope yours was as well. See you on Wednesday!

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Melissa