Just say “No” and keep your peace

We all have boundaries and can bang against them.

How reassuring is it that God has designed them for us?

And it is all good!

And in pleasant places!

This has me jumping for joy in the freedom! How about you? How about your teens?


And because it makes me smile {and cringe},

And because we can look like a stressed out fool when we don’t embrace freedom with boundaries, I am posting this treat  😉     —————->


Last week we discussed God’s Calling for each of us. When I talk about calling, I always continue with a discussionon limits. It is an amazing fruit of staying in step with God. It makes saying ‘No’ so much easier. And having boundaries gives us space to rest which in turn allows us to have peace and joy. I am so much more fulfilled and confident in the things I say “yes” to. Even if it stretches me a little. I can hardly express how much this has impacted me and allowed me to follow God’s lead and have an inner peace.



As I reflected on this graphic and tried to come  up with a good example to share, I keep remembering the first big “No” that I had peace with after defining my calling. I had been a PTA board member in various positions for 5 years in TN public schools. We moved to VA and it seemed strange to not have a PTA job. I was a newbie and unfamiliar with the way things were done in VA. I attended meetings as a member, offered some opinions and volunteered to set-up social media accounts. At the end of the school year, the Principal approached me and asked me to run for President! President!! I hadn’t had that printed on a magnetic name tag yet! I must admit my ego was stroked and I felt included and valuable … to the school…but was that I really where I wanted to find my value? I told the Principal that I would consider it and let him know. I prayed about it and measured it up against my calling. It did not fit within my boundaries. I determined that it was not where God wanted me to place my time and it was clear that it was a “No”. When it came time for the next meeting, I told the board that “I have prayed about it and it was not where God was leading me at this time.” Let me just say, God gave me courage to say that. I did not where these people stood with God. They may have rolled their eyes but I didn’t see it.   I still served in a board position that year but a less time-consuming one that was in line with my gifts. I was voted volunteer of the year and I could accept that recognition with humility and confidence that I had worked with God in the forefront. Seeking His guidance changed my heart. We moved again after that school year, and I felt lead to say no to PTA boards in this new season. And it has made room for some great “Yes’s”.


As I began to read the next chapter in Nicole Unice’s “Brave Enough”, I should not have been surprised that it was called: Brave-Enough Women Know Their Limits. Here are some notes from Nicole’s teaching:

God has given us boundaries and calls them good.

The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places. Psalm 16:6

God has given us two great gifts: capacity and fragility.

We have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us.
2 Corinthians 4:7

Sabbath-rest allows for communion with our heavenly Father.

There remains, then, a Sabbath-rest for the people of God; for anyone who enters God’s rest also rests from their works, just as God did from his. Let us, therefore, make every effort to enter that rest.
hebrews 4:9-11

To become strong, first we must be still.

This is what the Sovereign Lord, the Holy One of Israel, says: “In repentance and rest is your salvation, in quietness and trust is your strength, but you would have none of it.”
Isaiah 30:15

We answered these questions as a group based on these boundaries:


  1.  Which boundary type sticks out to you as places where you tend to live outside your limits?

  2. What frustrates you about your own limits? What is God teaching you in that frustration?




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