God is with us in … our inter-generational relationships and our decorations🎄

God is with us in our … inter-generational friendships and our decorations 🎄

The theme for the Hope Women’s Ministry Christmas dinner and the devotional series that followed was subtitled:

Finding Peace During this Christmas Season.

I prayed about this topic and each of these words. As I contemplated Christmas as a “season”, the vision that came to my mind was an Advent wreath of my youth; 4 candles orderly marking the weeks of expectant waiting and preparation for the celebration of the Nativity (birth) of Jesus. {yes, I looked that up}
Which in turn brought up thoughts of decorating my house for the season. I do not have the decorating gift but I like to fill the house with decorations during December. I have several nativities and wreaths that are reminders of Jesus’ presence in this season. Oh and a gigantic pre-lit, fake tree. I sit and gaze at it in the dark with only the lights of the tree in the room. That quiet time at night is peaceful and filled with God’s presence as I gaze at ornaments representing so many memories. (side note: the tree is covered in souvenir ornaments from our travels, the kids’ handmade items, gifts from friends and ornament exchanges, hobbies and sports teams representations, mini nutcrackers collected by our son, etc. It is our knick-knack display to keep the house clutter free the other 11 months ;-))

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As I continue to think on this as a “season” of waiting to celebrate Jesus’ birth, my thoughts turn to the expectant Mary. I used to sing Silent Night as a lullaby to my babies and felt a kinship with Mary. I sang it year round along with another song, Baby Beluga (that ended nicely with “Good-nightlittle whale, good-night”). In retrospect, I may have really been inspired to sing Silent Night because it has the line “sleep in heavenly peace” and isn’t that what every Momma is hoping for in that nighttime rocker!
I opened my bible app and searched for the story of Mary’s pregnancy. I was looking for what brought her peace in this “season”. Having an Angel say, “do not be afraid” and tell you that you have favor with God (Luke 1:30) should be comforting.

BUT the virgin birth idea would have freaked me out!!

The Angel assured her that the Holy Spirit would come upon her and that nothing was impossible with God. And by her faith and obedience she seemed to be peaceful to me. How awesome is it that we also have the Holy Spirit in us as believers and we can find peace in the assurance that all things are possible with God!

I continued to read on in Luke 1. I was reminded of the relationship between elderly Elizabeth (pregnant with John) and her teenage cousin, Mary (pregnant with Jesus). They were not close in age but they were definitely connected in circumstance. I can imagine they shared a lot, especially because in verse 56 it says:
“Mary stayed with Elizabeth for about three months and then returned home.”

(Sidenote: That was way over the Ben Franklin limit we often follow  … “Fish and visitors stink after 3 days.” hehe)

I have enjoyed inter-generational relationships and found peace there (but I never moved in).

When I was in my 30’s, I was part of a formal “Titus 2” group. I was a younger woman…
Titus 2:3-5 NIV
3 Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. 4 Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God
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I now find myself loving the older woman role at this stage of my life while still enjoying my relationships with the older-than-me women too. I find peace in these Godly relationships. And the wisdom shared with me by the mentors in my life has been a way that God has shown himself to be present.

I have one particular example from the Christmas season that has stuck with me. My older friend, Cindy, hosted a potluck lunch for our bible study group at the end of a fall semester. I knew Cindy well as she was one of my original Titus 2 women years ago. But this was the first time I was back in her charming house since I had moved away for 7 years. Her house was decorated for Christmas. Cindy loves Christmas. She had shared many of her families’ traditions with us over the years. Our family collected nutcrackers because of her but I never quite mastered gingerbread houses like the stories of their elaborate family collaborations. (We have done a few of the premade ones from Walmart).

(Added interest: I just saw this on Instagram this week… Cindy now has grandchildren to continue the traditions with … another encouragement to me as my teens are “over” some of our traditions) img_5731

During the fellowship lunch, Cindy told us that she would like each of us to look around at her decorations and pick one to take home with us!! (with the exception of homemade items by her kids or grandkids).

She seriously was going to let us take whatever we wanted! In fact, she insisted!!

I was overwhelmed with her generous offer and impacted by her “teaching” that material things are not our treasures.

I selected a glass church ornament from the small tree in her sunroom. It is one of my favorite “memories” and is still hanging from our pre-lit, fake, non-decorator, knick-knack tree and I hope that I would give it to you, if you asked.

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